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### Patriarchal Oppression
A common source of invalidation for AFABs is the conflation of gender with the systemic oppression of women, particularly among non-medically transitioning non-binary people. The message of "oh you just don't want to be a woman because of how women are treated" is far too often heard, and it can deeply infest your subconscious to the point of self doubt. Yes, being seen as a woman can really suck, but that has absolutely nothing to do with one's gender.
A common source of invalidation for AFABs is the conflation of gender with the systemic oppression of women, particularly among non-medically transitioning non-binary people. The message of "oh you just don't want to be a woman because of how women are treated" is far too often heard, and it can deeply infest your subconscious to the point of self doubt. But this doesn't make much sense, because if you're AFAB and not a woman, that makes you transgender. And on average, society treats transgender folks worse than women. So transitioning to escape systemic oppression is a dumb concept (and I personally have never met a trans person who has done this).
Radical Feminism's messaging of abandoning female gender roles can also conflate ones own feelings. "Am I actually non-binary, or am I just a feminist?" "Am I actually a man, or am I just a very butch lesbian?" These kinds of doubts sneak in and fester like weeds.
Radical Feminism's messaging of abandoning female gender roles can also make parsing your own feelings harder. "Am I actually non-binary, or am I just a feminist?" "Am I actually a man, or am I just a very butch lesbian?". For this, I encourage you to talk to cis woman feminists, especially lesbians. They'll complain about systems of oppression and the patriarchy, but the problems are all external, and they *want to be women*. Even very butch lesbians want to be women, just in a different way from mainstream femininity.
Then you have the problem of people believing that to be non-binary is to be androgynous, and to be androgynous is to be less feminine. Feminine enbies are valid! It is OK if you do not want to remove your breasts. It is OK if you enjoy your curves. It is OK if you do not mind being called "she" and "her". That does not make you any less transgender.